Closure?

Today is the funeral.
My brother is a nervous wreck and my sister-in-law and her family are beyond words.
Part of what is making everything so much worse than it already is, are the actions of the little girl's father's family.
They have been bad mouthing the mother and the mother's family.
One of the father's aunts used her connections with the newspaper to talk to a reporter after the accident. In the news article, there is no mention of the mother at all, and the father's last name had been added to the little girl's last name, which was not her legal name.
The girl was listed as living with her father in the town he lived in.
Was this perhaps some last ditch effort on his family's part to be a part of her life?
And was it really that important to them?
What purpose would it serve except to hurt the mother?
It was just a cold hearted thing to do.

The mother's family gave information to the paper for the obituary and the father, his family and his extended family are all mentioned. They didn't feel the need to wound the father and make some kind of statement to the world about how they felt about the situation.

The whole thing just makes me sick to my stomach.

My brother is worried about the scene people will make today and the way it will affect his mother-in-law (who is older and in poor health). He's worried about how it will effect our grandmother, who is also older and in poor health.

People can be hateful..heartless and selfish...

Why can't they just go and mourn the sweet little angel and say their good byes?

I'm not good at public grieving and I certainly learned that it's not advisable when you are a blogger (I'm referring to our friend Mr.Syn...whom I will refer to as Mr.Syn just to keep a google hit of his name bringing the trolls over here.)
Knowing what his family went through and not wanting to bring that down on anyone in my family or my sister-in-laws family, I'm taking the rest of the week off...unless the urge strikes me to write about something else.

I just don't feel like writing and I don't feel like talking to anyone either. It's nothing personal, I'm just the kind of person who deals with difficult things by closing up sometimes. Mr.Man hates it, but accepts that's how I am.

I'll be back when I can think again...