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An open letter to Tammie:
I have contemplated this too long not to speak.
I used to be like you. Flowing innuendos
Drunken webcams
Mentioning KY and not referring to Kentucky
(never mentioning condoms .. they are cruel)
I followed your site for a while
thinking maybe there was more to you
.. I was let down.
I used to be like you
because I wanted more site viewers too.
But after a few years of the nonsense
I realized I was using my body
to get someone to appreciate my brain.
Bad PR right there.
After making a few changes
and seeking out people who had my same interests
(instead of baiting with sex)
I have more subscribers on my RSS feed
and quality feedback on my posts.
You can be cute and still offer quality content
that is not tied to how well you can polish his pole.
Several of us are pulling it off.
It is not that I find you replusive
just redundant.
… that is all.
It was terribly hurtful.
It was also posted in a forum where a lot of people can read it.
That just made it more humiliating and embarrassing.
I can take the blows....god only knows I've had my share of them, but sometimes I'll get one that really knocks the wind out of me.
Consider me breathless...
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I'm assuming the comment came from an anonymous person. If it did, I have this to say to the troll... "If you feel the need to vent at someone for your possibly lacking life - either clarify how your opinion would matter to me, one way or another - or just quietly go read a different blog."
ReplyDeleteBG, your blog is terrific. Your writing is impeccable. More often than not, I would guess that some of your "commenters" live their lives vicariously - through you!
Don't hurt...do a little happy dance and get back in form for us!
That is the problem with this country these days, people trying to put their morals and standards into everyone elses lives. One persons porn is another persons poetry, I cannot really be offended, so I don't care what people post(Unless it is not legal), if I don't want to read it, then I won't read it! Howard Stern has been doing the same shit for nearly 40 years and he is worth a billion dollars! This is only my second time here, so I am a little bit in the dark, but at least I am not seeing recipes for the fourth of July!
ReplyDeleteSomeones Jealous
ReplyDeleteDude, fuck that shit. No one is making them come here, and I find it presumptuous of them to think they "know" you based only on what you post to your blog. God, some people need to get over themselves.
ReplyDeleteObviously, I missed all the nudity.
ReplyDeleteHang in there. Your regular readers aren't going anywhere.
Tammie, I have read you for years. It's sad that this person is trying to take her issues, and in an effort to make herself feel better about herself, inflict them upon you. Like many troll they try to hurt others in an effort to feel better about themselves. There are many sides to Tammie and those who have been loyal see those traits. A person that truly improved their lives would just move on, not try to inflict pain. I hope this person recognizes her false "improvement" and finds a way to be happy with herself. Sorry you had to take a hit {{HUGS}} you are a good friend and you didn't deserve this crap.
ReplyDeleteRon said it better than I could, and I fully agree with him. I left my two cents on the site where this was first placed. It is the act of a coward to place nasty anonymous comments, especially on another (third) person's site.
ReplyDeleteHaving met you in "real life" I can truly say the person who wrote that is demented. Your posts are great, and written in fun, and we know that doesn't represent 100% of who you are. She should get a life - so she doesn't have to post nasty, mean, unnecessary comments about others for her own amusement.
The person who wrote it is obviously a dry-twatted tightpants.
ReplyDeleteYou, n the other hand, are not.
She ain't it, and you are. Can't understand why she feels it's necessary to post anything, anywhere, about how insecure she is.
For the record, I've never used a webcam...never posted so much as a cleavage shot and while I'm open and honest about my sexuality, I have never implied that I'd be willing to service anyone OR send them nude photos of me.
ReplyDeleteTo have her say these terrible things and to say them on such a popular site was vicious and cruel.
I see where she has posted an apology...of sorts.
It mentions the content of the things I post on the site she posts on.
I can tell it's still a sticking point with her and her apology seems insincere to me.
I commented on her blog and told her I was hurt and humiliated by her comment and she deleted my comment.
Then instead of emailing me a reply and an apology, she apologizes there.
If it was peer pressure that prompted the apology, it's hollow and doesn't mean a thing to me.
I am the SAID poster. NO it was not anonymous. I could have sent a direct email to Tammie but instead I want to publicly apologize to her both HERE and on the site that I posted to.
ReplyDeleteThe reasons why I posted are mentioned on the said site.
I saw myself (old self) in Tammie and I was trying to help boost her internet readers by offering advice unfortunately it came out harsher than I intended. I am punching myself and reminding myself no one shares my brain.
Tammie. Hon. I truly apologize.
It was not my intention to hurt your feelings but I see now that I have. AGAIN that was not my intention and I feel that an apology is not enough.
I am SO GLAD you have such a great fan base that saw you through this until I could respond accordingly.
You are blessed and your fans rock.
Thank you to everyone who had Tammie's back through this ordeal.
I cannot say thank you enough.
Tammie:
ReplyDeleteI deleted your comment because my readers would not understand the content / where it came from
I am sorry if that hurt your feelings.
My apology WAS sincere.
I DID NOT have to reply openly.
Or at all.
Not sure what more that can be said. Just know I am listening.
Citizen X,
ReplyDeleteWhen I received two emails today from gentlemen wanting to "hook up and chat on the webcam" I had no idea what they were talking about.
I've never used a webcam so it was puzzling to me.
Then I got several invitations from people wanting to be my friend on facebook...men of course. Men I didn't know.
It didn't make sense to me because I don't get that kind of thing very often and I certainly don't get that much attention about anything sexual.
Most of my emails are from people complaining that I pick on god fearing people or the elderly.
In spite of the context of my blogs, I actually don't get very many come-ons from anyone.
Well...not until today.
I know you meant well and obviously you didn't like my comments and thought I was using them to try to draw readers to my blog, but you presume too much.
Not only did you imply I'm doing things to basically prostitute myself online, but you also made sure to tell me that you'd hoped there was more to me than the crude comments and posting.
Jeff has a very large readership and yet you felt that you had to use that forum to "help" me?
I have had plenty of hits on my stat counter today but I'm honestly concerned about what kind of people are going to be reading my blog and assuming I'm some kind of whore.
I will set your ming at ease by letting you know that your comments have made me take a long look at my blogging and helped me to realize that there is no such a thing as being silly and carefree when it comes to a blog.
It's all serious to some people.
No...you didn't have to apologize openly.
The damage has been done and I will pay for your comments.
An apology won't help that.
Your public apology may help you but I will have to spend my time sorting through emails and comments from trolls who believe the hateful garbage you posted about me.
I did notice in your apology that you justified posting your comment there by saying that I made "those" kinds of comments in that forum consistently.
You won't need to worry about that anymore...
Jebus.
ReplyDeleteI never meant ANY of this for you.
When I mentioned webcams I was referring to myself..
...back in the day and how I learned from it.
How THAT backlashed onto you
.. I am still confused.
This is another lesson in the power of the internet and I am sorry you are paying the price.
Hindsight is 20/20.
I can see that my apology is not enough. What can I do to make this better?
I am willing to buy you your own domain name and set you up with hosting.
I will absorb all costs.
You can continue using blogger to post or start using wordpress which will make your site more interactive.
THIS.IS.HOW.SERIOUS.I.AM
I know you are concerned about transition but it can be seamless.
ReplyDeleteI will assure that much.
Again.. whatever I can do.
And I apologize for the ilk of humanity you are dealing with.
It's ok.
ReplyDeleteThe worst case scenario is that I have to delete my blog. No big loss there.
Like Greg said, you're forgiven. Just forget about it.
I don't hold grudges...of course it's hard for you to know that since I'm never serious when I blog, right?
And you know what?
I might have disappointed you because you thought there was more to me and you feel like there isn't...but I don't share the serious side of me very often.
Call me foolish but when I open up that non-silly place, people like to use it as a target.
Humor has always suited me better.
When I don't take myself or my life seriously, I don't seem to get hurt as much...well..most of the time.
Please don't worry about it. Just go about your normal business and resume your life. This doesn't have to concern you anymore. I'll deal with it.
TY Tammie.
ReplyDeleteBut keep my offer in mind.
I no longer pay for my own domain or server space so it would be no shirt off my back to pay for yours.
BUT I AM WILLING TO.
OMG, BG, I am so sorry to see this happen to you. And shame on CitizenX!
ReplyDeleteThis is a perfect example people that once you press that enter button, it's done. It's too late.
This blog here "Huh? The Blonde Goddess is confused..." is truly one of my favorites because of the humor. I think your posts are brilliant and I only wish I could be so creative in my writing plus find such images to convey that humor!
Personally, I have never seen you come across as even overtly sexual, let a lone a whore, so please don't think that you are.
And this is YOUR blog! You get to make all the decisions, what goes on it, etc. I do hope you won't change a thing.
It makes me so mad that someone as nice as you now has to go through a bunch of troll mail. I wish I could help you.
I'm sure you know, but just in case; there is a little trash can to the right of each comment and you can simply click it and then click gone forever and the comment is done. In a few days or weeks, you may want to delete some of the comments (even mine), any that you feel just brings up bad feelings about this mess. Or delete some of your posts, but you don't have to delete your whole blog!
I got in my own little blog war recently and it got out of hand and others got drawn in and I felt so bad. I was so dumb I didn't know how to delete the off topic comments until I went on blogcatalog and posted it as a question! I wanted to just edit the comments, but was told I could only delete them once they are published. I think in wordpress you can actually "edit" another persons comment before it is published!
My email is on my profile, if you ever want to vent privately, feel free.
Yes. Shame on me.
ReplyDeleteCX feels shame.
As stated in the thread.
Don't worry dear, you have me to fight with you. keep your head up.
ReplyDeleteyou don't burn the whole apple orchard for one bad apple.There is always one person that screws it up for everyone else,just to hell with x and comeback to your fun way of writing. I for one need to laugh more often and you always get that laughter going, do not change the way that you are because of some pin heads off handed comments. we love you and will stand with you against this b.s.
ReplyDeleteBG,
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain. If you need to vent hit me up on FB.
TAS-W
Tammie, I've already spoken to you via e-mail & FB, but I want you to know this -- the way that you have handled this situation tells me one thing -- you have class. I am so proud of how you have handled this I wish I could just run over there to hug your neck.
ReplyDeleteMWAH!
Don't let people with nothing good to say get you down. I travel alot for work. I found your blog on one of these long dull trips. Your blog was like reading a good book. I read through your entire back log over a couple of long nights in the hotels. I passed it on to friends. It's great.
ReplyDeleteYou remain one of the 'friends I've not met yet' I'd most want to have at a backyard party. Fun, classy, irreverent, and smart. Mine is another vote for keeping your bloggy self however you like and let the critics hang.
ReplyDelete-Biff Spiffy/db grin
All those comments "over there" did was call my attention to tammie's blog. You have a new reader.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I must admit, the "Drunken Webcam" bit may have slightly helped along my decision to click on the link, but my "pole" already has a very nice shine to it, thankyouverymuch!
Oh, and I enjoyed the amusement park story in jeff's comment section, BTW.